Machines answering

No person answers. The machine answers.

Well, that’s my experience. I guess people just don’t want to talk to me.

But that’s not my point. Which is: it’s about the power balance in the timing of communication.

If I call you, it’s because I choose this moment to do so.  I’m prepared for the exchange, probably keen for its occurrence.

If you don’t answer, the control changes with the timing.  It’s now you who will call when it suits you, and when I may not be prepared for the exchange, and perhaps not keen to talk to anyone – even you.


Dealing with an answering service seems to me to be a bit like part of a contest for control.

I call you when I feel like chatting, but you make yourself unavailable.

And you call back, if you do, at a time when you feel like chatting.

It’s not conducive to a feeling of being in contact. More a feeling of a being the loser (or winner).  I don’t have an answering service turned on. If you ring me, you get me. Sadly, you don’t (ring me).

As you can see, I don’t even know what it’s called now. Voicemail, maybe.